First time ever

For the first time ever, I was able to leave my son unattended with a group of peers on the school playground, and not worry about him exploding. And I was able to leave both of my children with a group of peers and one adult who may or may not have been capable of keeping the peace at the church gymnasium after Sunday School. I was able to relax and talk with friends, and come back 10 minutes later to find all children still having fun, in both instances.

Honestly, just a month ago, I would have laughed if you told me that was possible. I would not allow my son out of my sight unless I was confident that there was another adult who was aware of his needs and could intervene appropriately, if he became stressed out with a peer.

I finally feel like a normal mother!

I don’t plan on leaving him unattended for more time anytime soon. But 10 minutes is amazing! I am so proud of him, and his peers who have embraced his needs and support him, while teaching him how to act more, “normal.”

Thank you for all of your prayers! They are working! I pray for all of you waiting for a breakthrough, that it would come, and that God would hug you while you wait. For those of you who have children with more significant disabilities, who know they will probably never see such a breakthrough, my heart goes out to you and I pray God’s promise, that He will never leave you, and that His grace is sufficient.

Also, I realize that this new state of being may be fleeting, and may not appear again for some time. Just like when I learn a new interpersonal skill, but then get lazy and backslide. I hope, for his sake, more than mine, that he keeps on building on this ability!

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Heather Holbrook

I found out that I have Autism upon having a son with the same "disorder." Ironically, I was voted, "Most Likely to Succeed," by my high school classmates. But had I been born now, instead of 40+ years ago, I would have been considered a different sort of special. This site was started to encourage other Autistics and the people who love them .

3 thoughts on “First time ever”

  1. Congratulations. I understand. We’ve gone from
    1) no unsupervised, unstructured play to
    2) carefully supervised play with small groups to
    3) finally able to let him play like a “normal” kid. (With someone listening to make sure things don’t go south.)

    It gets better. One tiny step at a time. 🙂 They learn, they grow. So do we.

    Here’s to 10 minutes!


  2. Heather, that’s totally awesome! I totally get how BIG a deal it is to have those 10-minutes where you feel like a normal parent because of your child’s accomplishment.
    Here’s to many more “10-minutes” in your day!


    1. Same to you and your family. And thanks for getting such important information on your blog about making church a place for everyone. I look forward to reading your blog.


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