Let’s all be really selfish, girls!

Curl up with a good book…to help your child with his homework.

Binge-watch Netflix…when you have loads of laundry to fold.

Talk for hours on the phone..while you are dusting.

Get out of the house…to pray for your kids’ school (check out Mom’s in Prayer for a group near you).

Make a lunch date with a friend…to cook meals for your families.

Shop ’til you drop…looking for jeans for your son who keeps outgrowing his clothes!

Tune into YouTube…to spend time watching Jimmy Fallon clips with your husband.

Bake a decadent dessert…for your daughter’s slumber party.

Go to the movies…to watch something your tween daughter is dying to see.

Surf the net…for the treatment of a mild concussion and good church youth groups in the area.

Hang out on Facebook…to laugh with those who laugh, weep with those who weep and hopefully spread a little joy.

27She looks well to the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.

28Her children rise up and bless her;
Her husband also, and he praises her.

Proverbs 31

Finally, go out for seafood…with a friend who will laugh, cry and pray with you, so that you have the strength to do it all over again.


He was perishing

Ornery, no reason to behave. We had just gotten back from a vacation in Arizona that my husband and I loved, my daughter thought was pretty good, and my son wished had included Wii, rollercoasters and mini golf.

Facing nothing but school one morning, he looked at me over his bowl of cereal. “Mom, I can’t wait until Grandma takes us to the indoor waterpark this summer.”

“Grandma is not going to take you to an indoor waterpark over the summer when you can swim in the lake at her house. Maybe she will take you to the waterpark in December like she did last year. But I am sure she is not going to take you this summer.”

Grump, mumble, fuss. He was fading fast. December was much too far away for a ten-year-old. Do I tell him about what my husband and I discussed the night before as possibilities for fun this summer? But we hadn’t settled on anything yet. Would my husband be frustrated for setting things in stone by mentioning them to our young man? As anyone with an Aspie knows, a mention of something is tantamount to an iron-clad promise that it will happen.

As the morning went from bad to worse, I realized that my poor boy needed vision. “Hey, do you know what Dad and I thought would be fun to do this summer on the way to Milwaukee?”

He is no longer perishing. He is now planning his every move at one of the Wisconsin Dells waterparks.

Someday he will realize that following God’s vision for his life is the only way to stay fulfilled, not a trip to a waterpark. But God meets us where we are at, and a waterpark is what inspires my son right now to keep fighting the good fight.

Where there is no vision, the people perish, but whoever obeys the law is joyful. Proverbs 29:18a

It’s like it doesn’t exist

Several months ago I was having lunch with some friends, one of whom has ADHD, so has many similar issues to myself. As the four of us were talking, somehow we got onto the subject of disabilities, God, and His ability to heal.

I shared how when I am doing exactly what God wants me to, the disability seems to disappear, but when I am not trusting God, and trying things my own way, my ASD is very apparent.

My ADHD friend’s eyes lit up. “Yes! That is exactly how it is!”

May we all experience our limitations being lifted by God, especially as we celebrate the ultimate lifting of our lives through Christ’s death and resurrection!

Blessed Easter, everyone:)

Love always trusts and hopes

I Corinthians 13:7 [Love] always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Those of you who know me really well know that I am not a very trusting or hopeful person by nature. It is only God in me that allows me to even appear trusting or hopeful!

I used to live in fear of the Russians attacking us when I was a child during the Cold War. Now I quickly relate the tensions in the Middle East to endtime prophecies. In other words, it easy for me to connect with, and communicate to my children the law and wrath of God.

But when I was doubting God a over a decade ago, it wasn’t God’s laws and promise of destruction for unbelievers that brought me back to Him. It was His never failing trust and hope in me that brought me back, most often shown through my Christian parents, husband and friends. The love, acceptance and belief in me was something that I just couldn’t resist, that I didn’t want to live without.

I can see my husband and mom just shaking their heads and saying, “It’s about time!” But I think I am finally understanding how to share the joy of God’s love with my kids more often than God’s wrath.

I am getting better at saying, “Yeah, you messed up, and there will be some consequences for that. But I believe in you, so don’t give up. Now what’s something fun we can talk about or do?” I am getting better at focusing on the positives, rather than the negatives.

I am getting better at always trusting and hoping.

After all, isn’t that what God does for us?

Oh, be careful little eyes what you see.

I remember singing that song just about every Sunday when I was in elementary school, and when my mom wanted to remind us how we ought to behave, she would sing a bar or two. It even would pop into my head as an adult, while trying to decide how to spend my time.

Now that I have two elementary schoolers myself, I am trying to teach them the same concept – that what you see, hear and think about will affect you, so be careful. They don’t sing that song, so they will have to settle for my lectures running through their heads!

My son loves Lego.  There are some awesome sets out there. There are also some really cool sets that are a bit too dark for my tastes. For months he has been obsessed with several sets that I have repeatedly told him I didn’t think were good for his psyche. He would insist that he was just pretending with them, that he knew that they were just toys and wasn’t going to let them affect him negatively. Meanwhile, he was constantly in trouble at school for fighting, or goofing off.

About two weeks ago he finally took my advice and started obsessing (that’s part of being autistic – something is either an obsession, or isn’t even on the radar), about sets that were cool, but not so dark. And guess what?

The first week he was only in trouble at school a few times, and the second week he had excellent behavior. He was also more pleasant to be with at home. This then translated into him having more time to do what he liked – computer, and less time spent doing extra jobs.

God’s word proves true, yet again: )

Philippians 4:8-9

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.