Category: HFAs and Marriage
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It’s Your Fault
While reading through Deuteronomy this morning I ran across these verses: 23 At that time I pleaded with the LORD: … 25 Let me go over and see the good land beyond the Jordan—that fine hill country and Lebanon.” 26 But because of you the LORD was angry with me and would not listen to me. “That is enough,” the LORD…
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Black vs. Grey
So here’s a great example of the difference between my black-and-white thinking, and my husband’s grey thinking. Several years ago my husband had kidney stones. After a week on meds to see if they would pass, he went back to the clinic in a ton of pain, and they sent him via ambulance to the…
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Small Talk
(Marriage tip #3) I wonder if this area of marriage is easier for a married woman with Asperger’s Syndrome/High-functioning Autism than it is for a married man. The reason I write this is because people with AS/HFA generally do not like to make small talk. My husband wishes I was a little better at small…
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Talking about peeves
(Marriage tip #2) I have learned that if I am upset with my neurotypical (NT) spouse about something, he prefers that first I start out with some pleasant small talk, followed by a comment about how much I enjoy him. After those pleasantries, I may bring up what is bothering me using an, “I feel this…