My first-born is training to be a FedEx driver right now.
When I was pregnant with him, my husband and I decided to wait until his birth for the gender reveal. I had been leaning toward being surprised, but it was my sister’s advice that settled it for me.
My sister, who had a daughter the year before, had decided not to learn her little-one-to-be’s gender. When my mom and I showered the pregnant mom the month or so before she was due, she received cute, but generic baby supplies that could be comfortably used for either gender.
Since baby showers are usually only thrown for the first baby, getting green and yellow supplies is very helpful if you plan to have more than one child. Knowing we hoped to have several children, my sister recommended that we not find out the gender of our first baby so that we, too, would get gender-neutral necessities from well-wishing family and friends.
My family of origin has two sons and two daughters, and so does my husband’s. The likelihood of us having a mix was pretty high, thus the decision to remain in the dark on whether we were getting a miss or master.
My husband was sure our first pregnancy was a girl, so we spent hours discussing girl names. We had narrowed our musings down to two. Finally, a month or so before our baby was due, I brought up the fact that, since we didn’t know for sure we were having a girl, maybe we should come up with a boy name, just in case.
I could tell my husband was miffed with my comment. He prides himself on being an INTJ, a very rare Myers-Briggs type strong on intuition. And his intuition is usually right on. So he was quite put out that I didn’t blindly trust that we were having a girl.
Thankfully, because we were out to dinner, he tried to remain polite. He really didn’t see the point, and we didn’t get far, but I had planted a seed. A week or so later, while driving to our last adventure without kids, he was willing to seriously consider the possibility of needing a boy’s name.
By this point in my pregnancy I was gigantic. I clearly remember walking into Target and an older woman exclaiming loudly as she walked out, “Are you having twins?!” So we figured, we might be in for a big child, no matter the gender. If a boy, he would need a strong name that went well with Holbrook.
Our naming strategy was to choose names that aren’t unique, but are less common in our children’s generation. My husband has a name that, until very recently, was very unique, so people never knew how to say it or spell it. I have a name that my mom thought was unique to my generation, but definitely isn’t!
After testing out a few names, we settled on, Mark: short, simple, strong, goes well with Holbrook, not hard to read, write or pronounce, yet not common to his generation. I didn’t want half the playground to come running when I called for my children!
After Mark was born, my mom gifted him with a name plaque that said that his name means, Mighty Warrior, with a Bible verse underneath. I hung that sign in the front hall right inside the door.
As Mark grew and started eating solid food, I began to buy groceries from Schwans. My mom had raised us on Schwans so I continued the tradition. Those vegetables and fish sticks are amazing! Not to mention the ice cream treats and chicken fingers.
One afternoon when Mark was in elementary school, the Schwans delivery driver stopped by. I don’t remember exactly how we landed on the topic, but by this time the Schwan man, as we called him, knew that Mark was a talented musician and had seen the name plaque by the door. I think I was probably mentioning that I was trying to figure out how to encourage Mark to live up to his name but wasn’t sure exactly what that meant for him.
I honestly had no idea that the driver was a Christian, so it was strange that I had even brought that thought up to him. Without missing a beat the driver quoted a Bible verse about God using musicians to conquer evil.
Mark is currently part of three worship teams.
Just as the delivery driver foretold.